You Are Not Ordinary

0:00This is Hidden Brain. I'm Shankar Vedantam. In the early days of Soviet cinema, a filmmaker conducted an experiment that would change our understanding of the human mind. Lev Kuleshov showed an audience a short film featuring a famous actor. The footage of the actor was always the same, a single, unmoving, and entirely neutral expression. But the filmmaker intercut the shot with three different images, a bowl of hot soup, a child in a coffin, and a woman reclining on a sofa.

0:33Even though the actor's face never changed, the audience was mesmerized by his performance. When paired with the soup, they saw a man gripped by hunger. When paired with the coffin, they saw a face transformed by grief. They didn't see a sequence of unrelated pictures. They saw an integrated story.

1:02The human brain is wired to make connections like this. We want to see the frames as part of a narrative. And so we invent the connective tissue. We turn frame one and an unrelated frame two into a cohesive story. This psychological tendency also shapes how we see our own lives. We are the editors of our own personal documentaries, constantly splicing together random, chaotic events into a narrative. Depending on our personalities and temperaments,

1:34our documentaries might be comedies or tragedies. They might be gripping tales or boring stories where nothing much happens. But all of this raises a question. If we are the ones sitting in the editing room, are we making the best use of the footage? Are we choosing to tell the right stories?

1:58This week on Hidden Brain, and in a companion story on Hidden Brain Plus, the tales we tell about our lives, and why some stories turn out to be better for us than others. Support for Hidden Brain comes from TikTok. On TikTok, people are breaking down physics, exploring geology, and explaining why the world works the way it does. You'll see impressive experiments, explanations that finally make sense,

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3:58we're in search of a good story. A narrative that will capture our imagination, transport us to a different world, offer a satisfying resolution. The best stories create this magic. How do they do this? At Boston College, Benjamin Rogers studies how narratives generate meaning and significance in our minds and the implications of the stories we tell about our own lives. Ben Rogers, welcome to Hidden Brain. Hi, Shankar. It's great to be here.

4:29Ben, I understand that starting when you were a teenager, you've been interested in stories. In the books that you've read about the craft, especially when it comes to the craft of filmmaking, you learned that there was one storytelling framework that audiences find especially compelling. Now, this framework shows up in ancient literature and modern tales. I'm wondering if we can start with a story like Harry Potter. How does the Harry Potter story follow this storytelling framework? Sure, yeah. So it starts off with Harry.

5:00At the time that you meet him, he's an orphan boy. He's living with his uncle and aunt and cousin. But he's just, you know, kind of put down upon, doesn't have anything special about him. But then mysterious things keep happening and then he ends up having a moment of shift. And that's when a series of wizards and wizard-adjacent people tell him that he's actually, unbeknownst to him, a wizard and he needs to go off to Hogwarts school to learn how to craft magic and to take up the mantle by his parents that he didn't know a lot about.

5:31And so over the course of the first story and over the series, he learns, he faces a series of challenges in terms of facing monsters and people who want to hurt him and hurt his friends. But he learns magic and he ends up transformed and really embracing the idea that he's there to help others and become someone who can stand up to fight for the little guy. And this is one of those stories that both within an individual novel or a movie, but across the entire series, he follows the main elements of what we call the hero's journey. One of the things that you and others have pointed out

6:13is a hallmark of the hero's journey is not just about the plot and the events and the narrative and the things that the hero does, but an internal change that happens within the hero. Talk about this, is that the internal change that happens within the person is as much the story of the hero's journey as much as the action of the plot, if you will. Yeah, absolutely. And I think that's one of the secret powers of the hero's journey, or maybe one of the reasons it's such a popular framework,

6:44is this idea of it allows story writers to make manifest an internal change via some sort of external, obvious, sometimes fantastical version. So in the case of Harry Potter, we see this boy who does not feel like he has any powers, is not important or interesting in any way, and he comes to realize that actually there is something special about him, but that's not enough for the story. What needs to be more is he needs to learn what to do with that power, how he can make friends,

7:14how he can bring along people. And so the magic and his strength that he grows in that area ends up paralleling his internal transformation as he grows up into a young man and figures out how to be truly a hero, both in terms of how he treats other people, but the story represents that in terms of the challenges he faces and the literal transformation he has in terms of his powers. You know, I'm thinking about the story now for the first time in a slightly different fashion, because I've long known

7:45that the story of Harry Potter is a story of magic. It's a story about wizards and all kinds of magical spells. But as you're talking now, I'm realizing that part of what the magic really is about is about this internal realization, this transformation that happens within Harry when he realizes the power that he has within himself. That's where the magic actually is. Absolutely. And you see this sort of on two tracks, but the main focus is that, you know, while it's exciting to watch someone like Harry Potter face magical, you know,

8:15face down dragons and face down monsters and Voldemort. But what really brings people back to the story time and time again is this idea that you're watching someone transform and learn and figure out how to be an adult, how to be someone who is worth wanting to model your life after. And the hero's journey is the way to represent that psychological change on a broader, more adventurous, exciting way that people want to experience on both levels.

8:46In the 1940s, Ben, the mythologist Joseph Campbell looked at a variety of myths across different cultures. Tell me what he did and what he found. Yes. So Joseph Campbell was a professor of literature at Sarah Lawrence College, and he worked in comparative mythology and religion. So he's looking at some of the most enduring ancient stories across the globe. So not just in terms of the West, but looking at all these stories

9:17across various areas and various cultures. And what he found was when he was looking at all of these myths and looking at these enduring stories, that there seemed to be the same basic plot line. And he ended up calling this the monomyth, but that's what we call the hero's journey. And what he attributes this to is this idea of, you know, birth and death and separating from yourself in the past. And these stories are able to represent this really profound human condition in a way that replicates and shows up. So while the individual aspects

9:48of the story might vary, Campbell was able to say, look, look at these various stories from all of these countries across the world. They actually follow the same plot line in a really interesting way, which he wrote in his book, The Hero with a Thousand Faces, which is one of the most popular narrative psychology or narrative, maybe even philosophy books that exists today. And so if you look at a story like Homer's Odyssey or the Ramayana from India or the King Arthur story or even the Bible, Joseph Campbell would argue

10:19that in some ways, you know, perhaps some of these are religious texts and some of these are just stories, but they all follow the same basic arc, if you will. Absolutely. And if you ever read Hero with a Thousand Faces, I think what's most, what's really powerful about that book is it's told through examples from myths that you've heard of and from myths that at least I had not heard of or had not learned while I was in school. And I think that speaks to the power of this, this idea that all of these stories, even stories you may not

10:50have ever imagined or may not ever heard of otherwise, actually are all speaking the same language or using the same underlying plot. Hmm. I understand that Joseph Campbell's work has influenced generations of Hollywood screenwriters and directors, and that includes George Lucas who made Star Wars? Yes, absolutely. George Lucas really attributes a lot of the success of Star Wars to Joseph Campbell and I believe they became friends or at least George Lucas saw Campbell as a mentor

11:21as he went along and actually there was a speech that I really loved that George Lucas gave I think in 85 in which he mentioned that he had been working on many, many drafts of Star Wars and he just couldn't quite get it to work. There was something that wasn't clicking and maybe in his struggles in trying to figure out how to improve the story he actually came across the hero with a thousand faces and suddenly it all clicked and suddenly the story made sense. He knew how he needed to structure the plot and the overall arc of those first three films and he even went so far

11:52as to call Joseph Campbell his Yoda, the mentor that he looked to in terms of how to tell a good story.

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14:05This is Hidden Brain. I'm Shankar Vedanta. From time immemorial, people have told stories in which a brave but uncertain figure sets out on a quest, heading into the unknown in search of treasures both external and internal.

14:23At Boston College's Carroll School of Management, Ben Rogers studies the way people make meaning from their lives. He draws some of the inspiration for this work from great books and movies that show us how characters make meaning from their journeys.

14:42Ben, according to Joseph Campbell's framework, the hero's journey has 17 elements. When you and your collaborator studied the phenomenon, you condensed those elements into seven elements. The first is what you call the emergence of a protagonist. Let's use the Star Wars movies as an example. How does Luke Skywalker emerge as a protagonist of the story? So, yes, we begin with the idea of just someone having a clear and defined character and an identity. And specifically in a hero's journey,

15:13that often starts with the protagonist being relatively unknown or at least not remarkable in any way that they might be aware of. And Luke Skywalker, to me, is one of the prototypical examples of the protagonist. And when we meet him in Star Wars, he's a, I believe he's a farmer on a moisture farm on Tatooine, a very set-aside planet. He does not have anything that seems remarkable or magic about him. And in fact, when we first see him, he's really just dealing with the struggles and the chores that he has to face. And it does not seem like he's destined for greatness

15:44in any meaningful way. I want to play you a clip from that first Star Wars film called A New Hope. In this scene, the wise elder Obi-Wan Kenobi and the young farm boy Luke Skywalker have just viewed a holographic message from a desperate Princess Leia pleading with them for help. You must learn the ways of the Force if you're to come with me to Alderaan. Alderaan? I'm not going to Alderaan. I'm going to get home. It's late. I'm in for it as it is. I need your help, Luke. She needs your help.

16:15I'm getting too old for this sort of thing.

16:22I can't get involved. I've got work to do. It's not that I like the Empire. I hate it, but there's nothing I can do about it right now. Talk about the idea that in many of these accounts of the hero's journey, the hero is initially reluctant to get involved, man. Yes. So in Joseph Campbell's version, this is called refusal of the call. And while it's not explicitly in our version of the condensed hero's journey, it's still a very significant part of this initial moment

16:53of shift or change that the protagonist faces. And I think it's important because people are often dealing with how do we handle huge changes in our lives? And we know from psychological research that's very difficult for people to do. And so I think that being such a key part of the hero's journey is really important because it feels authentic to the audience members. If they were imagining how they might experience someone going, actually, you think you're a farmer, but you're destined for greatness, you might initially go, whoa, I don't know if that's quite true. And so I think that

17:23being part of the hero's journey is supposed to mimic the human experience of how do we actually deal with these massive changes when they're thrust upon us. I'm going to play another clip from A New Hope. In this scene, Luke Skywalker returns home to his aunt and uncle's farm only to find the homestead destroyed and his relatives killed by imperial forces. Obi-Wan Kenobi consults him. There's nothing you could have done, Luke, had you been there. You'd have been killed, too. And the droids would now be in the hands of the Empire.

17:53I want to come with you to Alderaan. There's nothing for me here now. I want to learn the ways of the Force and become a Jedi like my father.

18:05So this marks a moment where the reluctant hero is reluctant no longer, Ben. What's going on here in terms of the hero's journey? What's going on here is Luke, in this case, is finally being pushed beyond his refusal of the call. At a certain point, while he might be reluctant to embrace what has been thrust upon him in terms of potentially becoming a Jedi, now that his aunt and uncle have been killed and he has to figure out what to do next, his past life is no longer tenable.

18:36There's no way he can go back to what he wanted to, so he no longer is really able to refuse that call. And in a sense, this makes his quest very simple in terms of what he should do. He wants to avenge the murder of his aunt and uncle and become powerful and be able to do that. He's using this finally kick out the door in order of, I can't go back, but now I need to really embrace and grow and learn and eventually transform.

19:12And I think you see this again and again in different versions of the hero's story. The protagonist reaches effectively a point of no return. You know, there's no going back to the earlier life. That door has been closed. The only way to move now is forward. Yes. While all of us would like to think that when presented with a great opportunity that we wouldn't sort of shirk our duties and try to live on our current lives, often what happens in the real world and what's mirrored in our narratives is that we do need that push out the door.

19:42We need to be able to not go back and have the courage or at least the lack of fear to start facing the challenges. I think that's one of the things that's represented in the hero's journey that, like the refusal of the call, is really very authentic to the human experience. We talked earlier about how Star Wars was explicitly modeled on the hero's journey as described by the mythologist Joseph Campbell. Another classic hero's journey is found in The Lord of the Rings, the series of novels by J.R.R. Tolkien.

20:13In this tale, the protagonist, Frodo Baggins, undergoes a shift and sets out on a quest, but he doesn't go alone. He finds allies. Set up the premise of the story for us, Ben, and explain why finding allies is an important part of the hero's journey. Sure. So, in the telling of Lord of the Rings, and I'll make sure I try to represent it as accurately as I can, so Frodo is living at the Shire. He's living a pretty idyllic life, not really facing any monumental challenges

20:43or that many interesting stories. He is thrust upon him this challenge by Gandalf, who's a wizard, and he's told that he needs to help on this big quest to help destroy the One Ring to rule them all. Evil is stirring in Mordor. The ring has awoken. It's heard its master's call. But he was destroyed. Sauron was destroyed. No, Frodo.

21:15The spirit of Sauron endured. And Frodo obviously doesn't want to do that. He has enjoyed his life and is continuing to enjoy it, but he is pushed out by Gandalf. And along the way, he ends up making a series of other allies. Samwise Gamgee, Merry and Pip. Then he meets others like Aragorn, Legolas, Gimli, and lots of other people. And so this is representing this idea of allies is while we might think of the hero as like a solitary hero on a journey,

21:45what actually is an intimate part of the hero's journey is this idea that no hero walks alone. They often only reach the distances that they're trying to reach when they're helped along by other people. And in particular, that help can sometimes be kind support, but can also be sort of being pushed out the door towards greatness. Now, along the way, Frodo encounters innumerable challenges. And of course, this is an essential component of the hero's journey. Absolutely. Facing challenges is both representative

22:16of the human life, but it's also what makes a really interesting story. I have a young four-year-old daughter and we read lots of stories at night. And while the stories are fun and clever, they often don't have a lot of challenges or stakes about them. And so they're not stories that I'm always jumping to repeat. But Hero's Journeys, on the other hand, are these stories filled with monsters and nemeses and all of these different things that people are trying to overcome. And it gives it a sense of excitement, but also a sense of things could go wrong. We're riding a knife's edge here.

22:47And I think that's what makes a really powerful story. Talk about the idea that as the protagonist faces these challenges, the protagonist undergoes personal transformations. And in some ways, that is key to the hero's journey. So it'd be one thing to face challenges

23:17and just immediately win them. And that might be a satisfying story on some level, but that wouldn't be a story that people might come back to. What we really like to see in our protagonists is this idea that we face challenges, we face things that we don't know if we can overcome, and we realize that as a result of facing those challenges, we become transformed. Now, in a lot of stories, that's a literal transformation. So you might gain magical powers, gain superpowers in various superhero films, but that often parallels

23:47or goes along with a personal transformation of realizing maybe you're stronger than you thought you were, or realizing some sort of depth of character that might not have ever been apparent had you not had to face these challenges and figure out can you face them down on your own. And this is true for Frodo in The Lord of the Rings. He starts out being, you know, small and inexperienced and sheltered, and he eventually discovers in some ways the hero within. It's one of the things I love most about Lord of the Rings

24:18is the idea that Frodo as a hobbit, you know, is both sort of unknown and unremarkable in terms of his character at the start, but he's also pretty unremarkable in terms of his stature. The hobbits are literally small and what's great about The Lord of the Rings and the journey that he goes on is Frodo and some of the other hobbits as well end up being some of the most heroic characters. They're the ones who stand up to take the ring to try to destroy it at the end when other people are too nervous. So both in terms

24:48of their stature but also in terms of their character more importantly, they go through this transformation and end up being the ones that people really remember and identify with. So in the stories that we've talked about so far, you can see the similarities. You know, Harry Potter starts out as this orphan kid who basically has been ignored and discarded by society.

25:18Luke Skywalker starts off as this farm boy. Frodo Baggins is this unremarkable hobbit and you can start to see now why these stories appeal to so many people because people feel, you know, I am unremarkable, I am ordinary and what these stories are telling you is you are not. Absolutely. I think there is a strong degree of identification and the most powerful stories are the ones that while it might be circumstances that we never actually find ourselves in, it's really enjoyable

25:49to imagine what would I do in that case and the hero's journey kind of takes you from this unremarkable baseline protagonist, farmer, orphan, etc., to something more powerful and if you follow along in that journey as the reader, you're also going on that journey yourself where while you might not be the one who's literally gaining magical powers or superpowers, but you're in the perspective of the reader and it feels like you're developing some deep personal insight by following the steps

26:19of this journey.

26:21The seventh and final element of a hero's journey that you've identified involves leaving a legacy. What is this idea, Ben? Yes, the legacy is this idea of making some sort of positive impact and in a lot of hero's journeys, people might think that it ends where they become transformed, they gain some magical superpowers and they defeat their enemies but most of those

26:53stories don't end right there. They actually go on a little bit longer to show how the hero goes back to their home community to share either literal or metaphorical treasures with those around them. They often repair relationships that they had, they help people with whether that's the new depth of character or their new powers, they're able to give back in a really profound way to show that, yes, you've transformed personally, but that also can transform the communities around us.

27:21Does that happen with Frodo and the Lord of the Rings? Yes, so in the books, Frodo ends up going back and helping to restore the Shire. So as a result of the events that transpire in the story, the Shire is destroyed or at least put in terms of really bad circumstances and so Frodo actually returns back to his homeland at the end to help restore his homeland and sort of rescue his fellow hobbits. Just as screenwriters

27:56and directors make choices about how to tell a fictional story, all of us make choices about how we tell the stories of our lives. When we come back, applying the framework of the hero's journey to our own stories.

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30:54This is Hidden Brain. I'm Shankar Vedantam. When you think about your own life, what is the narrative that comes most easily to mind? How would you say this narrative affects the way you think about your own life?

31:07If you would be willing to share your story with the Hidden Brain audience, please find a very quiet room and record a voice memo on your phone. Two or three minutes is plenty. Email the file to us at feedback at hiddenbrain.org using the subject line Hero's Journey. Again, that's feedback social scientist Ben Rogers explores how people make meaning from their lives. He has studied how retelling

31:37the story of our lives using the framework of a hero's journey can change our psychological well-being.

31:46Ben, you and your collaborators have developed a scale that measures how much an individual's life story resembles the framework of a hero's journey. You've evaluated the life stories of a large group of people using this instrument. Do some people report having a hero's journey that runs through their lives?

32:04We surveyed a number of people and we collected a lot of life stories. And like all psychological constructs, there's a heavy degree of variability where some people are very high on the hero's journey. They see the elements of the hero's journey in their own lives or they tell their story often featuring a lot of these elements. But also some people say in our stories, I don't see my story in that way. I have lived an unremarkable life. Or they write on a questionnaire that we have that they don't feel like those elements of the hero's journey

32:34are heavily present in their lives. I'm wondering, the people who report their lives as a hero's journey, did you notice anything about their mental well-being, their satisfaction about their lives? Yes. We asked a series of different questions, but the main one that we were focused on and what we saw repeated time and time again in our studies was that the people who either saw their life as a hero's journey or told their story naturally as a hero's journey, those were the people who also reported feeling like their lives

33:05were highly meaningful, that they had a lot of meaning in their life in terms of their life felt significant, it felt purposeful, felt very coherent. And this was exciting to us to find that the way that you see your life story or the way that you might naturally tell it seemed to have this profound impact on the types of attitudes that people carry around with them in terms of their mental well-being. And what about the people who did not tell their life stories in the form of a hero's journey? What did their personal narratives look like, Ben? Yes, their life stories took a number of different forms.

33:37So I'd say one of the most common versions in terms of the studies that we collected is people would just write stories of this happened to me and then this happened to me, sort of like a series of biographical steps of I grew up here, I went to college here, or I didn't go to college and this is what happened. So sort of just a checking the mark on literally the events that had happened without any connective tissues. Now the other examples that we would see is sometimes people would tell these stories of what some psychological researchers called contamination narratives, but we also saw versions

34:07where people were saying I had all this promise in my early days and I either didn't fulfill it or situations outside of my own control happened and I ended up either plateauing or ended up in a state that I'm not particularly proud of right now. And so instead of being able to face challenges and transform, people might have faced those same challenges and felt like they were not able to succeed in the way that they wanted. What were the psychological effects of constructing these narratives that featured, you know, stagnant or downward trajectories?

34:37Yes, we looked at a number of different outcomes and I think the ones that are most useful to call out was we looked at how resilient people felt that their lives were. So if they were facing personal problems, people who often told these contamination narratives or these narratives where they felt stuck did not feel well equipped in order to face down those challenges. So they would report that they either tried to ignore personal problems or that they didn't know how to face them. They felt really powerless. And we also looked at depressive symptoms, so not a clinical diagnosis,

35:08but the idea that people are saying my mood right now, I feel very downtrodden. I feel like I don't have a lot going for me. And the people who told those life stories in that way often reported feeling more in terms of that negative well-being. Now, of course, it could be that the stories that people are telling about their lives are simply accurately reflecting their lives. And so if one person, you know, has a series of successes and has a lot of breaks and, you know, starts out, you know, not in great shape but ends up in great shape, you know, it's easy for them

35:39to tell a triumphant story, a hero's journey type of story. If somebody's life has taken a different turn, if they've experienced illness and setbacks and divorce and separations and tragedy, you know, you could say that their lives, in fact, reflect a downward trajectory. So I think a reasonable question to ask Ben is as you hear these stories from people, do you think that people's lives are predicting their psychological well-being or the stories that people are telling about their lives are predicting their psychological well-being? That's such an interesting question

36:12and I think it's one we grappled with a lot as we were doing this work of are we just showing that people who live really heroic or really positive lives feel very positive about their life? That would be interesting on some level but would not be speaking to sort of the powerful versions of the life story in and of itself. And so what we would say is based on the stories that we collected is often people who rated their lives as high on a hero's journey they were living lives that might not be from the outside

36:43a story that you might go they're obviously going to feel like they have a highly meaningful life. Some of the stories that people would report to me were facing some extremely difficult circumstances. People who had been in and out of prison who had dealt with substance abuse who had dealt with relationship issues things where people would say I've had a really tough life and maybe I'm not rich and famous or a huge hero but I've been a hero within the context of my life. Maybe I've shown a lot of resilience maybe I've helped people

37:13who have faced similar circumstances and so that to me speaks to some of this of the stories that were really high in terms of hero's journeys were not always stories that were just massively amazing from the outside. Sometimes they were really heartbreaking but in a way that people seemed to find deeper meaning out of them. So you and your colleagues have given a lot of thought to why the hero's journey might be such a powerful formula

37:44both on the screen as well as in real life. One idea is that the brain simply is hardwired for story and the hero's journey makes for a better story. Yes, so there's work out of evolutionary psychology that speaks to this idea that as you said our brains are just wired for stories and the idea being that when you know back in cave person days there was a lot of uncertainty about the world. You might eat something and fall ill you might face some sort of animal

38:15and not know what to do and so the idea being that humans learned how to tell these succinct meaningful stories or packages of information in a way that people would be able to remember that and multiply that over thousands and millions of experiences and across thousands of years is our brains still seem pretty oriented to respond to stories in a powerful way and you see this across a lot of different research. We see that you know in the courtroom if lawyers tell their you know closing arguments in terms of a narrative versus just facts

38:45that that's way more successful. You can look at the marketing world any commercial that you might see is often a miniature version of a story versus them just highlighting the pros and cons of their product we just are really oriented towards stories and both marketers and anyone who's trying to communicate information will often lean on stories because it helps people remember it and it helps us know what framework and how do we take that information and act upon it.

39:17We've talked about the idea of contamination stories in our conversation researchers have also looked at what's called a redemptive arc now we've talked about the idea of redemptive stories in the show previously as well Ben but what is a redemptive arc and how is it different from a contamination story? Yes so a redemptive arc or redemptive narrative a lot of this work is done by Dan McAdams who is actually as part of the Hero's Journey paper along with my fellow collaborators a redemptive arc is quite simply

39:48a story that starts negative or starts maybe neutral and ends up positive in some way it has a positive arc in terms of the end of the story a contamination narrative in contrast is one that might start positive and end up negative in some profound way and research has looked at people who tell their stories as either a redemptive arc or a contamination arc will feel profound results in terms of their well-being the extent that they want to help others in their lives so the way that we tell these stories is really important

40:18and the Hero's Journey is an example of a redemptive arc though it contains with it some additional elements Now the Hero's Journey also pulls together different elements that increase people's sense of meaning you know as we discussed the Hero's Journey features a protagonist who has agency a protagonist who experiences psychological growth a protagonist who seeks out friendship with allies each of these things has been shown to have psychological benefits on its own Yes we see

40:49the Hero's Journey as this really succinct compelling package of a lot of work that has been done in psychology and social psychology and even organizational behavior over the years so running through the elements relatively briefly with protagonists we know that you know feeling in charge of your own destiny feeling like you have a clear sense of yourself there's a lot of work that shows that that relates to meaning in life we know in terms of shifts of experiences that people who are high on the personality trait of openness to experience

41:19they often rate their lives as more meaningful in terms of quests having a sense of purpose or goals is strongly linked to meaning in life having allies so social support is probably the most robust predictor of meaning in life amongst all of the other things and then in terms of facing challenges and transformation there's a lot of work that shows that people really do find profound meaning out of facing growing and dealing with challenges in their lives and then in terms of legacy there's a lot of work that shows that being pro-social helping

41:49donating to others is strongly related to a sense of meaning in life so what the hero's journey narrative does maybe consciously maybe just by coincidence who knows is this idea that we have all of this like menu items of things that can make life feel more meaningful and how do we put this into a succinct narrative that people want to listen to I understand that you and your colleagues have wondered if it's possible to help people shape their life stories into a form that resembles a hero's journey you've administered

42:20this restorifying intervention to a group of some 1700 volunteers have you found the intervention works can you increase the meaning that people are perceiving in their lives this was one of the things that we were sort of worried about in terms of this work is this idea that we're showing that this narrative matters and we had looked at it a number of different ways from looking at how people see their life tell their life controlling for various psychological factors but there is still something about we want

42:51this to be useful for people we don't want just the people who naturally tell their stories life as a hero's journey to be the only ones to experience these meaning benefits and so we sought to develop to see can we help people guide them in terms of retelling their story as a hero's journey and as a result of doing this intervention what we found were many of the same benefits that we had seen just out of people who naturally told their story that way we as a result of taking our intervention people reported their life meaning to be

43:22higher they reported that they felt like they were flourishing in their life they reported fewer depressive symptoms and importantly they also felt more resilient they felt more ready to face down life's challenges that might continue to face them in the future you also discovered something very interesting and surprising which is this restorifying intervention

43:52increased the tendency among volunteers to perceive more meaning even in something as a random string of letters on a computer screen talk about this finding and what it means this was a study that we had the idea about and we wanted to see you know if what we're talking about in terms of seeing your life as a hero's journey helps kind of raise your expectations and raise your connection in terms of making meaning then that might have other behavioral benefits

44:23that are not just related to yes my life feels more meaningful and so we ran a study in which we had participants look at these random strings of letters and the task was to what extent do you find patterns in these strings of letters and so we had one group of participants take the hero's journey intervention and we had one group just do a random reflection on basic aspects of their lives and what we found was for the participants who had done the restoring intervention they seemed more primed to just see more meaning overall

44:53and so while these just looked like strange strings of letters they actually reported that they felt like there was higher amount of patterns that there was some underlying aspect to these strings of letters beyond just complete randomness and this sort of pointed us to this fact of being in this mindset of yes my life is more meaningful so there must just be more meaning around me it's actually putting us into a mindset to find more meaning everywhere that we can find it so this tendency

45:24to find more meaning in random stimuli is related to our ability to see more positive meaning in our personal problems Ben? I think it really goes back to this idea of connection and to what extent are we making connections between aspects of our lives so just as the participants in that study seem to find these hidden connections within these strings of letters when we ask people are you able to solve personal problems the idea of can I make connections between the resources that I have the allies that I have

45:54past experiences have I had if you're able to make those connections in a more easily accessible way you're going to feel more equipped to face down difficult personal problems and that was a study that we ran where we had people do the hero's journey intervention and ask them how might you actually solve this problem in the course of the next month and then we rated it in terms of how adaptive were the solutions that we're coming up with so people who may not have taken the hero's journey intervention they were sometimes more

46:25likely to say you know this is a difficult problem I just don't think I know how to solve it but the people who had done the hero's journey intervention who were sort of primed to find more meaning find more purpose they were more likely to try to make those connections solve their problems and figure out you know how do I actually tackle this in a meaningful way a reminder that if you have a question or comment about this episode or a story that reveals the hero's journey in your own life that you would be willing to share with the

46:55Hidden Brain audience please find a very quiet room and record a voice memo on your phone two or three minutes is plenty email the file to us at feedback at hidden brain dot org use the subject line hero's journey again that's feedback at hidden brain dot org ben i'm wondering whether you've tried to discover the hero's journey in your own life i have yes it's one of those things that researchers often call what

47:26we do me search where you realize that the what you're studying actually relates to some profound experience that you've had in your life and so yes i have absolutely applied this framework to my own life in a way that's really had profound benefits for me tell me a little bit about that i understand that as a young person you were a happy go lucky child and a teenager who hadn't really experienced much adversity if you were to tell your

47:57own life story as a hero's journey how would you tell it so as you mentioned i had had a really great childhood i was headed off as a 18 year old to the university of texas at austin i was going to study finance and liberal arts and i had a great group of friends everything seemed great although unremarkable i did not feel like i was destined for any broader sense of meaning in fact i figured i'd join the corporate world and you know maybe become a consultant or do

48:27other types of things but shortly before i headed off to college i i had what i look at now a really profound moment of shift right before i headed off to orientation my mom got really sick and had what we thought was appendicitis over time over the next month or two we quickly realized that she had stage four pancreatic cancer and within just my first freshman year at college she passed away from the disease and as someone who had never really experienced death before and had

48:58had by all other measures a pretty fortunate life this was obviously something i was ill-equipped to deal with and was something that i needed to figure out and that while i didn't know it at the time was really my quest in college my studies were going fine and i was making friends but looking back on it i was really lost i really needed to figure out how to deal with this profound change in my life and like many of the hero's journeys that we had talked about i wanted to refuse the call i didn't want to change as a result of this

49:29experience because i really didn't want this experience to have happened and so i wanted to put it away into a box and not have to return to it but what i realized over time was i needed to deal with it i needed to find some sort of broader sense of meaning and that really became something that i came back to time and time again in college and with the friends that i made in college and i actually met my wife while i was an undergrad at ut austin they helped me sort of realize that this was a

50:00very important thing in my life and this was a challenge that i really needed to face and the way i ended up transforming as a result of it is i ended up you know after a short career in terms of consulting realized that i actually felt a grander calling i wanted to go back and do academic research to understand a little bit more about how people deal with things such as this and i very quickly gravitated towards meaning research and narrative research as a way to find meaning and that brought me to work

50:30uh on the hero's journey very profoundly um i felt like i was called to study it and specifically with the intervention piece is not just saying you know it's nice to have meaning and some people have more or less but actually using my research to help people find more meaning in their lives or maybe they're at work and that also shows up in my teaching as well i teach in a business school i teach organizational behavior so topics like leadership and teamwork and really important things but i also love to infuse in my

51:01classwork this idea of meaning in life is really important finding meaning in your work is something that is not just a nice to have but is really important and i like being there for students at a really formative time in their lives where they're facing a lot of pressures to get that investment banking job or to get that consulting gig and i like being there to say yes those are important yes those are great goals but also you should think about broader sense of impact in terms of your lives so both in terms of my research and my teaching i sort of

51:31transformed into someone who might have been able to help me along when i was in that in those same shoes a few years ago in your very first semester of teaching band you found a way to have your own hero's journey leave a legacy in the lives of your students tell me what happened yes so this is one of those moments where

52:01looking back on it it felt like fate or it felt like you know the natural end of the hero's journey that i now realize and so what happened was i actually had not one but two students in my first semester whose parents or who one of their parents passed away so one their parent had just passed away right before the semester and one one of their parents had passed away during the semester and as you can imagine based on my past experiences i felt a profound sense of duty to try to help these students however i could and while i wasn't able to you

52:33know fix what had happened to them as i had been through that same experience i was able to pull on both my research and my own life experiences to try to point them towards the ideas of meaning the ideas of well-being the ideas of how do they march forward that i think i would have really appreciated at the time and in fact in my last class day i decided to have my students do the hero's journey intervention and it was a pretty emotional experience for for me i actually found myself tearing up as i was teaching these students and you know looking at the

53:05these two students in particular and telling them my own personal hero's journey that we've kind of discussed today and you know seeing the wave of recognitions over them was really a profound way of giving back that i didn't anticipate being able to make so early and you know maybe a lot of this legacy is in my own mind which is you know still very memorable to myself but it's something that i'm really proud of that i was there and that i was able to use all of the transformation all of the challenges i had faced in my personal and my professional life to try to make a difference in these

53:36students beyond just teaching them concepts in the classroom and this is very much like what we talked about frodo baggins returns to the shire and is now able to use the personal transformation that he has experienced to help the people around him this was my small way of returning back to the shire and trying to give back and help you know kick people out the door in a very positive way of you're

54:07dealing with this very difficult experience but you know life will go on and here's some tools and some insights from my challenge and transformation that maybe would be helpful for them some time ago we heard from a listener named leesbeth who was about to embark on a journey it wasn't a hero's journey but one that many of us dread in 2018 leesbeth was on the hunt for a

54:43new apartment there was just one complication i had a partner who was moving across country to live with me and she had three dogs and multiple cats and i had cats too but it wasn't just that one of the dogs was a pit bull it is very hard to find someone who will rent to you one if you have more than one pet but two if one of those pets is a pit bull after looking at more than 20 apartments not a single one came through finally one couple said yes

55:15leesbeth knew why they said yes we finally found this gay couple that that is the reason that they took a chance on us it was our connection in the lgbtq plus group the apartment search was one of many times when leesbeth felt supported by the queer community i came out in college so that's when i joined the lgbtq plus group and i know there are a lot of parents who don't want their kids to come out they think

55:45it's gonna be such a hard life they're so scared but i've had the opposite experience i've felt so much belonging and connection from being part of that group i mean when when one queer person passes another queer person we look at each other and smile with this like knowing like yeah we're in the same group and it's such a good feeling such a good feeling think back to the last time you experienced something like this

56:16maybe you were at a work conference chatting with people in your particular field or at the grocery store where you laughed with a stranger because you were both wearing the same band's t-shirt or perhaps you were thousands of miles from home in a foreign country and someone came up to you and started speaking in your native tongue this happened to researcher j van bevel when he was a teenager he was in italy and a girl about his age came up to him and started speaking in english she'd seen

56:46a maple leaf on his sweater and recognized a fellow canadian even when these moments are fleeting a glance of recognition a chat in a mcdonald's in italy they give us a boost we sense this other person is like us maybe they share the same interests or a similar past maybe they see the world as we do the opposite also holds true when we interact with people from a different group we feel some distance from them we wonder if they have different

57:16interests different values different priorities our minds do this so quickly that we're not aware of how we're putting people into boxes us and them when we come back the psychology of group identities and how group dynamics shape our lives you're listening to hidden brain i'm shankar vedantam support for hidden brain comes from

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58:56this is hidden brain i'm shankar vedantam at new york university psychologist jay van bevel studies the power of group identities along with dominic packer he is the author of the power of us harnessing our shared identities to improve performance increase cooperation and promote social harmony jay was a guest on a previous hidden brain episode it was titled groupthink today he joins us to respond to listener questions and

59:30comments about his work jay van bevel welcome back to hidden brain thank you so much for having me again jay you found that the groups we belong to shape everything from how we vote to the beer that we drink paint me a picture of the range of ways in which our groups shape who we are the best way of thinking about it is that our groups are part of our identity that we think of ourselves sometimes as individuals but much of the time we think of ourselves as part of a group as part of a fan of a sports team or in

1:00:03terms of our national identity or even in terms of the role we have at our work and once we think about ourselves through that lens it changes how we interpret everything in our environment from the people around us to our goals to the food that we taste hmm so in other words when i say that i'm a man for example in some ways that is a group identity in fact i'm pointing to something where i'm a part of a very large group of people yeah and this can be good it can help you build an affinity and solidarity with other men it can also be bad if it leads to

1:00:36discrimination against women hmm why do you think it is that the groups we belong to influence us so deeply jay the reason is because it's fundamentally who we are i like to think of it as something that's baked into our dna humans evolved in small groups and the only way that we were able to survive and spread around the earth is by cooperating with one another and the individuals and those groups who got kicked out of the group didn't survive and didn't pass on our genes we are the descendants of people who managed to fit in

1:01:06and after generation and generation of generation of people who managed to do that we are groupish creatures hmm you and other researchers have found that groups can shape us in big ways but they also shape us in subtle ways down to even our sensory perceptions yes we've run studies where we find that for example if you go into switzerland where chocolate is a big part of their national identity and a source of national pride if you make them think

1:01:37about themselves in terms of their swiss identity they smell chocolate as more intense than when they're just thinking about themselves through a different identity wow let's talk about some of the factors that bind us together we heard from a listener named evelyn she's a film teacher and she organized a summit to make films that brought together young people from around the world the kids came from 26 countries evelyn writes making films about serious subjects like climate change discrimination and women's rights was the shared purpose that brought them

1:02:08together talk about how a sense of shared purpose jay can bind people together i feel like we see examples of this all through history yeah i think that 75 years of research on this topic has taught us one thing it's that when people have a goal that pulls them together where they all have to contribute is one of the most powerful ways of binding people together and it can pull together people who are normally in groups in conflict suddenly they're motivated to cooperate and try to accomplish something that's really

1:02:39important to all of them and so climate change is a great example of that it motivates and inspires all kinds of people from around the world to care about a real important issue now groups can also come together around shared pain a listener named edith is a clinical psychologist in miami she worked with survivors and family members of people who died in the collapse of the surf side condominium in 2021 through meetings of groups every day for almost a month we

1:03:14were able to get people together of all different kinds of religions genders countries of origin and races and beliefs to get together and really come together as a family overcoming many many differences that maybe in another circumstance they would not be able to overcome so we talked a second ago about the role of shared purpose can you also talk about the role of

1:03:45shared pain yes one of the most powerful ways to bind people together is a shared experience that requires them to support one another and so this can happen under threat when you feel like you're being your group is being attacked and it can happen under a disaster traumatic experience like the one that happened in miami and this is a part of again human nature we tend to think of humans as having this reaction to stress as fight or flight but research has found that we also engage in what's called tending and befriending that

1:04:19under stress two of the most powerful ways of coping are to work together and build support networks and relationships and tending to one another to help one another get through it i mean this might be why you when you think about people who are in military outfits for example they may have served in combat you know 30 years ago 50 years ago 70 years ago and they still think about the the buddy in in the trench next to them from all those years back as being one of the closest people to them in their entire lives yeah and i've actually heard that people in the military why they're willing to throw themselves on a

1:04:55grenade or jump out of a trench and defend their their uh fellow military members is not necessarily even because they care about the belief system of their country but they're there to defend the immediate group of people who are in the trenches with them their bonds are incredibly well connected and powerful and the military does lots of things like marching and chanting in unison as well as their experiences in war that bind them together i'm wondering if it's also the case that when people go through some shared suffering

1:05:27together in some ways they have an understanding of the world that is different than people who have not been through that terrible thing so if you've gone through a natural disaster for example and you know what that was like you know you can try and explain it to people who weren't there but it's not the same as someone who actually was there with you while it was happening yes one of a core part of any group is having a shared sense of reality and so sometimes we rally around a shared experience a part of it is because other people from the outside might not understand what it's like to go through that and experience it and

1:06:00suffer through it the other thing that groups do is create a shared sense of reality in this case they create a sense of meaning and purpose that helps them get past the pain and find a way forward in their lives now there's a flip side to the warmth and connection that group identities can bring us listener rebecca grew up in the midwest she had a question about group dynamics when it comes to tightly knit religious and cultural communities i noticed when i was growing up and in high school many years ago

1:06:31that it was a big deal if a young person moved away from the community to the point that i was told that they would have a ceremonial funeral for that person if they did not come back within some period of time i gotta believe that there's a group dynamic at play there that's attracted some research and i'm curious what drives that because these are family members you often parents and siblings thank you so jade the story shows the power of religion to bind some people together and to exclude others

1:07:05and i think what i hear rebecca asking is how a parent can set aside family bonds with a son or a daughter in favor of religious ties yeah the the point here is really profound which is that we think of our family and these people share our dna they're like as close to us as possible and yet these other group identities can become more important and what's happening in these situations is something that could normally be positive which is you're part of a religious community that looks out for one another

1:07:37cares for one another provides support and meaning but in this case if you're getting people to turn against their own family members and have a funeral when they're gone what that starts to look like is cult psychology and we have a chapter of this about cult psychology in our book and when people are part of a cultish type of group and this can happen in religious communities it can happen at work um the example of a cult uh that we studied in organizations was enron which was a massive um energy company that

1:08:08went bankrupt because they had a cult-like mentality and and in those environments you create social norms that are very unhealthy people when they're part of a group they want to be good group members and belong and so they look to see what the norms are in the community of fellow group members and they follow them and so what you're seeing in this example is that the norm is to treat anybody who leaves as dead to them in in some traditional uh religious communities they also engage in what's called

1:08:38shunning if you leave the group your family's not allowed to talk to you anymore ever again and so these are where the norms get very strong and can lead to very negative relationships with people who would otherwise be the closest to you the ones you'd care about and love and would be there for you as well do you think there's a bright line or a blurry line between you know let's say uh fans of a sports team and they're they devoted to the sports team and and they have antagonism to the fans of other sports teams

1:09:09and what you're describing as a cult yeah so i think sports are a really good example because i'm a big sports fan i've been to lots of football games hockey games baseball games and you can walk into a stadium with a hundred thousand other people chanting and covered in the colors of the of the team and it can feel like actually a hostile environment but in almost none of the stadiums i've ever been to has anything ever broken out into actual conflict and and again the reason here is because of norms

1:09:40because when you go to a professional football game or baseball game the norm is that everybody's there to cheer and you're allowed to cheer for the opposite team and people will maybe give you a hard time or tease you um but it will never cross a line and they have people there to enforce the norms you know the ushers security um that's now they scan you when you come in to make sure you're not a risk to anybody or bringing in anything dangerous and when you do that you can actually have incredible numbers of people all chanting and cheering and feeling all of the intense emotions associated with

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1:12:20this is hidden brain i'm shankar vedanta in his book bowling alone the political scientist robert putnam argued that since the 1950s americans were engaging less with social groups gone were many of the bowling leagues civic organizations and religious groups that bonded us with neighbors and friends instead we watched tv by ourselves or buried our faces in our phones

1:12:54but at new york university jay van bevel argues that group identities while changing remain a central part of who we are jay one thing we talked about in our last conversation was sports fandom and we've talked a little bit about it today as well we received an email from a listener named lois who writes having had polio as a child i have lived over 70 years with a partially paralyzed right leg sports

1:13:28teams have not been a part of my life but musical groups have been i'm quite sure you would find the closest groups with the strongest interpersonal bonds are those involved with performing music i'll expand on what lois is saying here jay to include all performing arts theater comedy dance can being part of an artistic troupe help to bring people together that is something i think that's really important to point out is that groups can form around all kinds of shared interests certainly around people who are part of a symphony or a musical group part of other creative endeavors

1:14:03and often those connections are really profound and there's lots of good reasons for it so there's research showing that when people listen to music together it actually binds them and generates a shared identity this is this is in part why concerts can be really powerful emotional experiences because everybody's dancing and moving and just immersed in the music and certainly other creative endeavors where you're part of a community where you get a sense of belonging and a sense of distinctiveness

1:14:34are really powerful for driving uh really strong group identities and so for artists a lot of times they are kind of the rebels of society they're trying new things they're creative and different from mainstream society and so that actually can be something that makes them feel special to be part of something that's different from the way everybody else is approaching and thinking about about life we received a message from listener christina about the role of place in shaping identity i was reflecting on how group identity has shaped my life and at first it was really difficult to come up

1:15:09with examples and then i stopped for just a moment to think about my biggest identity and one of those is being a houstonian someone born and raised in houston texas so people often have really strong affinities with the place that they identify as home jay what i find so fascinating about this is a place is just you know a place it's the land the streets and buildings why do you think our hometowns exert the force on us that they do place is an incredibly powerful way that we find and connect with other people

1:15:41build shared memories have a sense of purpose and there's lots of symbols associated with place that signal that we're special so i live in new york city and i've lived here for the last 16 years and i've developed an identity as a new yorker even though i didn't move here until i was already 30 years old and uh in new york there's a very strong identity i've actually heard that even having the phone number 212 at the start of your phone number is something that new yorkers value and really don't want to lose once they get it because it's a powerful signal that you're a true new yorker um but i will

1:16:13say this i was just actually last night planning my high school reunion with my friends because i grew up in a small town called fox creek 2 000 people in rural northern alberta and canada and we still talk you know it's now 30 years since our our graduation and we have a shared sense of identity from that place experiences memories and connections that will still draw us together that will pull people together from multiple countries to get together to revisit those and remember them and share them so place is incredibly important to people whether it's a country a state a town or a city or even your

1:16:50local community some communities have a really strong identity where they have like group barbecues and activities that are just community focused so this can happen at all kinds of place hmm so christina as we heard is from houston uh but besides identifying with houston she took care to mention that she does not identify with another city here she is again and a big part of that identity is not only love for our city and our sports teams but along with that comes a dislike for the city of

1:17:22dallas our rival in many things not only in in business but in sports and i was like well that hasn't you know really affected my life until i stopped for just another moment and realized i actually turned down a job offer that i really wanted because of the simple fact that it was in dallas and as a houstonian that was just so unpalatable to me so jay you found that these days much of our connection to our groups is actually motivated by our animosity toward outside groups

1:17:54say more about this idea yeah a core part of identity is a sense of us and them not only is there a sense of who we are but who we are not there's a critical group boundary and in the case where you have a rivalry like between houston and dallas it actually provides a very powerful motivating force for people to come together to compete with the people in dallas whether it's at sports or forms of civic pride and that can actually be an incredible motivator there are studies that have been done

1:18:26actually at nyu's business school about the power of a rival that when we have a rival it is actually one of the triggers that can really bind us together and motivate us to do incredible things and those things can be great things in america i think of the cold war and the space race and the development of all the technology that came up uh from that competition and then it can lead to negative things if you really start to spill over this animosity into hatred it can lead to violence discrimination and conflict and so we have to be very mindful that it's it can be very useful to have

1:19:00healthy competition and healthy conflict like the example of houston versus dallas and sports teams but we have to be very mindful that there has to be a boundary where it doesn't spill over into those negative aspects of group identity i'm wondering why many animosities around group identity are connected with people who are quite similar to one another so for you know 90 of the people on the planet dallas and houston are both cities in texas they have so much in common why do you think it is that people from houston and dallas focus on what makes them dissimilar yeah the classic term for this is

1:19:36called the narcissism of small differences that we actually often become obsessed with people who are very similar to us in part because we're comparing ourselves to them and so this can be where you're competitive with a good friend or an office mate because they seem the most relevant comparison to you now that's different from the way that most people think about conflict where they think that we have conflict with the people who are most different from us the people who have radically different belief systems or religions or come from different countries different skin colors

1:20:09different genders but in most situations it's actually the people who are similar to us because we see them as a relevant form of competition i'm wondering if the same thing is true in politics republicans and democrats in the united states feel like there are you know chasms separating them but of course for most people on the planet you know republicans and democrats within the u.s. are all are all americans and and the distinction between them is probably small do you think this affects the way political polarization operates jay it is definitely part of the puzzle of polarization i would say

1:20:45there's two pieces of the puzzle of polarization one is that people do have genuine disagreements about some policies like health care or immigration but on top of that there is what we call affective polarization where it's just you really don't like a group simply because they're part of another party even if they agree with you on the actual policies and so this leads to all kinds of real discrimination and i will say part of it is exaggerated if you actually measure what people believe the average

1:21:16democrat and average republican aren't that far apart but if you ask them what they think the other party believes they imagine that people from the other party hate them way more than they do they imagine that people in the other party are very different from them in terms of beliefs in terms of demographics and so uh it creates a funny situation where they tend to avoid each other they now move to different places and communities and states but if you actually put people from these different political parties in a conversation they predict it will go badly and they're shocked when it goes as

1:21:47good as it does because their their stereotypes are so negative and so distorted from reality that most people they're talking to once they're in the flesh and blood are actually much more personable and interesting and reasonable than they imagined yeah one thing that i think many of us notice when it comes to group identity is that it can create very different conversations depending on who you're talking to so for example you know you hear new yorkers complain all the time about new york city they'll say things like it's really dirty there's trash everywhere it's crowded the housing is so expensive

1:22:20but if you come in as an outsider and criticize new york um new yorkers uh will will fight you yeah uh there is something about the new york identity that is about uh complaining um about the smell about the garbage uh about all kinds of things but it is also a source of pride and there's actually a funny aspect of identity in that way and again this goes back to this optimal distinctiveness new york feels different than every other city in america and the things that make it distinctive are the things that

1:22:53can be really frustrating as you live here day to day but they're also the things that make it special and when someone from the outside criticizes those things you you defend it um my favorite quote on this i saw someone uh post this on social media they said everybody complains that new york smells like urine um but they said the way you have to think about it is urine happens to smell like the greatest city on earth you're thinking about it the wrong way we heard from a listener named karen uh she has two daughters and when they were younger they played

1:23:27in a soccer league um and she writes the teams were chosen randomly and every year you would sit with different people on different sides of the field based on what team your daughter was assigned to so you could no longer sit with your friend whose daughter was on your daughter's team last year because they were now the enemy it's interesting how one year you're cheering on a child because they are on your child's team and the next year you want them to lose so it almost sounds jay that you know karen was taking part in a social science experiment the way these soccer teams were constructed but talk

1:24:00for a moment about how malleable group loyalties can be so karen's experience maps exactly onto my experience uh when i was a kid we'd play games of pickup hockey or pickup basketball or pickup football and i had my one friend jaron he and i were almost best friends and if we were if we flipped a coin and ended up on the same team we got along famously uh but if we were on the opposite team by the end of the game we'd be yelling and fighting with one another because we were both very competitive and um that inspired me actually to study group identity and most of the research i started doing on this when i was

1:24:33a phd student was bringing people into lab and flipping a coin and putting them on two teams and what we found over and over and over again is just that simple random flip of a coin makes people identify with their own group and discriminate against the other group they will give more resources to members of their own group they see them as friends they automatically trust them more and believe what they say and these are the things that happen even if they don't have a chance to interact or even meet anybody in their own group just knowing that they're part of the group is is sufficient and so

1:25:07this is actually called minimal groups because these effects have been found for 50 years over and over again i actually think this is one of the most important findings in all of psychology that a flip of a coin changes our identities and radically changes how we see ourselves and how we we treat other people in really deep profound ways and so this is essentially what karen's experiencing with her daughter and the soccer teams this is a powerful psychological force and uh it's something that it's easy to take for granted until you're in it and you see what it does to you um but this is

1:25:40something that's important part of human social psychology when we come back what happens when you disagree with your group you're listening to hidden brain support for hidden brain comes from hbo max from the world and creators of the big bang theory

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1:27:19religious racial and political divides with dominic packer he's the author of the power of us harnessing our shared identities to improve performance increase cooperation and promote social harmony as we've discussed jay our group identities shape how we as individuals view the world but being part of a group of people can be complicated maybe a political leader of your party or the coach of your sports team takes your group in a direction you might disagree with here is listener miriam

1:27:50i am a jewish person i identify very much with my group as a jewish person but i do not at all agree with what's happening in israel right now and the conflict with gaza as a result it makes me feel almost ashamed of my religion and when it comes to the holidays i'm very conflicted about celebrating them so i was just wondering my question is how does it affect people

1:28:23uh when the group identity that they've always had suddenly um manifests something that they don't agree with or they feel uncomfortable with and they feel conflicted about it what do you think jay well i mean that's a really powerful uh question shankar so what miriam's talking about is the fact that you can feel pride when your group does well again a national group winning a gold medal um your favorite sports team but it can also be a source of shame or in this case it sounds like

1:28:59she's feeling a lot of cognitive dissonance like she feels really identified with this group and and very upset about where it's going so when i hear stories like this i think that one of the most important things about any group is to create healthy norms and in this case the norm that i think is really important in any healthy group is about dissent the research on this done by my co-author dominic when when we were in grad school he wanted to understand why people speak up when they think their group is going wrong and what he found was actually really counterintuitive many people

1:29:32have this notion that dissent happens when people don't like the group and want to leave it but what actually happens is the opposite it is often driven by people who really identify with the group and care about it and worry about where it's going and think that the group is going to be damaged if it continues down this direction and so they speak up despite the fact that they know they're going to get pushback or social ostracism or punishment because i i always just remind people think of the terms we have for dissenters you know we throughout history and how they're treated like

1:30:04heretics um how are they treated traitors um even devil's advocates you go to a company and they'll say so and so is the devil's advocate and i said and i say is there a meaner word you could come up for someone devil's advocate so so like pause and think about what you're saying and so what any group needs to do whether this is a national group part of a community uh i often see this in organizations to avoid that kind of cult mentality is to make sure that you make it safe for people to speak up

1:30:36and dissent and part of it is understanding that the people who are doing it are doing it because they want to help the group and they're worried about it and they think it's gone wrong and so that is a fundamental norm that needs to be reinforced and ideally by leaders because leaders can make it very hard to dissent if they punish dissenters or they can make it easy by expressing how much they value them and how important it is and in society this is often through protest this is uh like one of the most important signals of a healthy democracy is that people can peacefully protest

1:31:07so this is like a signal that we're healthy um in our society if we can do this that we can speak up i've been to countries around the world where i i talk openly of my criticisms of my home country and people's eyes get wide because they would never feel safe doing that in their own country and so this is something that is really critical in any group that you're part of is to understand the dissenters are often the people who care the most and they're they're speaking up because they're concerned and giving them a platform and hearing them out even if you don't agree with

1:31:38them at least taking them uh seriously and understanding they're doing it out of a position of care you've done a lot of work looking at group identities in political context um listener jacqueline sent us a message about that we definitely have a whole lot of tribalism going on in political parties um in families and friend groups but certain groups are coded as bad or harmful and i feel like like we've collectively we've just lost our collective culture what we're

1:32:12taught to do is stand on the other side of of the stream and point a finger at somebody and and hate them because of all of the ways that they're different from us and what i've i've begun doing is seeking out people that don't agree with me and doing so from a place of curiosity trying to understand them and as a secondary to be understood to listen more than i talk so we talked earlier about how outgroup hate uh can be as or even more motivating than in-group love and it's possible

1:32:46that maybe every generation feels that we are more divided than than previous generations but what do you make of jacqueline's point jay about conflict between different political groups and also her approach to addressing it so jacqueline puts her finger on a feeling that many people right now in the united states have and many other countries um in the united states as you said this is a political divide in many cases but but hate can come from all kinds of angles it can be driven by racial hatred it can be driven by religious hatred so i think we have to take it

1:33:17always very seriously that that it is a dangerous thing because it is very powerful and motivating and the other thing to understand is one of the reasons why people are so passionately hate other groups is because it's driven from a position of morality i actually have have studied this and have a several papers on it that when people hate something they say it's because that group or that belief system violates their sense of morality and the moment that something violates your sense of morality you see it through the lens of black and white good and evil right and wrong and it's hard for you to

1:33:51listen if you see things that way it's hard for you to treat other people like human beings when you think that they're morally evil um but what jacqueline's doing is almost textbook what what social psychologists have found is actually really important to get past these issues which is that you need to realize that you can reach out to people and they're not the evil sinister beings that you believe some of them might be but often our mental images and stereotypes are way worse than reality for the entire group and we shouldn't apply them to everybody in the group um the other thing that

1:34:25you uh need to understand is that if you approach it from a position of curiosity and you listen and reach out to other people to hear their perspectives that turns out to be the single thing that is most powerful at putting other people at ease because in these types of intergroup conflicts people when they're interacting with someone from the other group expect to be criticized or manipulated and so they immediately move to the defensive and shut down but if you approach it from a perspective of curiosity and listening it turns out you actually are more persuasive um they actually appreciate

1:34:59the conversation more you actually start to shatter their stereotypes as well as your own and that becomes the foundation for having a real relationship that's built on mutual empathy and respect and so i can't stress enough how the world would be a better place if we had many more people like like jacqueline you know jacqueline's comment made me think about conversations we've had about intellectual humility uh you and some colleagues recently published an interesting paper on the role of collective intellectual humility and how it might be easier as a group than as an individual to be

1:35:35humble about what we know or don't know tell me more about this work jay yeah a topic that really has fascinated me for the last half decade or so is intellectual humility and what this means is essentially openness to different people to different experiences without getting threatened or defensive if you disagree or they challenge you and this is often considered a virtue it's an intellectual virtue that any of us can cultivate now most of the research on this has been at the individual level that some individuals are more intellectually humble and and it turns out the

1:36:07people who are are less polarized more willing to listen to people who are different than them more willing to accept criticism of their own perspectives and accept kind of well-rounded views of things so it turns out to be a real superpower but it also operates at the group level so you can be part of a group and have an openness to dissent and criticism in the group and it sometimes even in a group it can be useful to have someone who's low on intellectual humility because they push everybody to think about something that they're not taking seriously and they continue to to pound away at

1:36:40it this is often the psychology of a whistleblower that they're not going to drop it because they think something really bad is going on and so they're going to continue to to hammer it home or get the word out to the public about it because they're very deeply concerned about it so that again this is partly the role of leaders to create norms and when i run my research meetings every friday we have a research team of 15 to 20 people who meet if i'm talking about a paper we're working on or something that i've written and i share it for feedback i share my opinion last because what i learned is

1:37:12once i became a professor the students saw me as powerful and if i would say i really like something or disliked it they would go around the room trying to find reasons to agree with me and they're and they're smart so they could do that but we got much smarter as a group when i shut up and i asked them for their opinion and they would go around the room and share all kinds of different perspectives including ones that were quite different from mine and and kind of caught blind spots that i had and in those cases we came up with much better solutions more creative ideas and we became more

1:37:43innovative and our our research became better became more impactful and guess what that's an environment that everybody loves so it also became a place that people wanted to be part of that group more and more once they realized that there was kind of this vibe of intellectual humility so it's something i'm trying to study now is how you can create this in other groups because i think this is really fundamental to a getting a shared sense of reality but also being creative and innovative and creating a space that people want to be a part of

1:38:12now being part of a group is something that most of the time i think we are able to choose but sometimes this choice is made for us that was the case with listener radhika i'm wondering if we could explore group think when it comes to being put in a group that you don't necessarily want to be put into right so there's certain identities that you want to be part of who you are but society puts you into

1:38:45buckets society puts labels on you that maybe you don't want to have on you and maybe in the beginning you you you sort of resist or you fight those labels and then eventually you're just maybe tired of fighting those labels and and you sort of just like sink into that that identity and you're like well i guess i guess is everyone is making me out to be this way you know maybe i am this way talk about the role of agency and choice in group membership group participation and group identity jay

1:39:15the issue of agency and groups is crucially important the message that i try to send to people all the time is that you should be very thoughtful about the groups that you join because those groups will shape you and that was something she mentioned that once you're part of the group and people see you that way you start to adapt to that view and the other way in which the group shapes you is by their values and norms you start to internalize those so we should be very thoughtful about the groups we join because they're going to lead us to be our best selves or worse

1:39:47selves and if you you know try to join the groups that are going to help you attain the type of identity that you want to have and achieve the goals you want you're going to be a lot happier and more successful in life now what she's talking about is the case that happens to all of us at some point is that you're going to get put into groups and for for many of us those groups are our age our gender our ethnicity where we're born our family lineage because we cannot control any of those and people stereotype

1:40:17us on the basis of those things and they often do it within 100 to 200 milliseconds of seeing somebody wow this is this is what the neuroscience shows you show somebody something within a few hundred milliseconds they're often encoding their race their gender their age and so we can't avoid that and if people treat us differently on on that basis um it's a challenge to escape it and so this is why i strongly encourage us to like talk to people and be open and listen to who they are and what identities they actually care about i i do this exercise in groups sometimes when i'm giving

1:40:50talks i ask people to list the 10 most important identities to them it's a great actual conversation starter at cocktail parties or work retreats because you learn a ton about a person by what identities actually matter to them for me that may be a father an author a professor a new yorker now um a hockey fan but you start to learn about what i really value and the things that i don't actually care about that aren't central to me but when you see me you might not see those identities they don't pop out from

1:41:22the picture of me and so it is really important that we have an open mind and talk to people because they are all of these things the the classic phrase for it is we contain multitudes and people don't like to be stereotyped and pigeonholed into an identity especially one that they did not choose and so i think we need to create a space for people to to have more freedom and agency to select the identities and the groups that they are that matter to them and and you'll see people do this they'll signal it by wearing a hat of their favorite team or the city they're from or the country from their

1:41:58from the nation that they're born in if that matters to them and this is their way of sending a signal out into the world about the identities that that matter to them and who they really are

1:42:13j van bevel is a psychologist at new york university with dominic packer he is the author of the power of us harnessing our shared identities to improve performance increase cooperation and promote social harmony jay thank you so much for joining me today on hidden brain thank you so much for having me again hidden brain is produced by hidden brain media our audio production team includes annie murphy paul kristin wong laura querell ryan katz autumn barnes andrew chadwick and nick woodbury tara

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